The Love Test That Could End It All
March 31st, 2010 admin
So you’ve been dating a while or are considering having a long term relationship with that person. You’ve been together a few months and now the newness of the relationship is starting to wear off. You know the I can’t stop thinking about him all the time, part. Or she just has my head dancing all the time. This is also known as the infatuation. Every relationship new or old has had it. It’s the part of the relationship that made you two fall in love with each other.
Now it’s gone. Now you’re asking yourself is this person the right person for me? Below is the aiz that could end the relationship or bring the fire to an intense heat of love. Be ready for the answers you may not like what you are about to hear.
1. What is important to you in a marriage situation?
This is a definite thought question. Watch his body language as he is thinking of an answer. Is the answer honest and though our or does it come off as an answer he thinks you want to hear?
2. What are your long term goals for your life.
Most of us women want to know if those goals have any mention of us in them. If those goals
are all geared towards work or something outside the relationship we may want to move on.
3. Where do you see our relationship in the next 3-5 years?
Make sure you have been together a while before you ask your man this question. The thought
Of being with somebody in 5 years can be a pressure question and scare your guy off. Of course if that happens then you two are finding out early on whether or not this relationship will be long term.
4. What is it about me that you wish you could change?
This will give him the opportunity to get his pet peeves out into the open. However this shouldn’t be a session where he’s going to rail you for the next hour.
5. What are your thoughts on money?
Is he a spender. If he has been pretty loose with his money during the infatuation phase by showering you with gifts etc getting the answer to this question is paramount because if he actually is a freewheeling spender he’s got a stash somewhere or he’s going to be broke in a short amount of time.
6. What caused your last relationship to end?
You’re looking for a well thought out answer. If he begins to pass all the blame on to his last mate as to the end of the relationship he’ll be doing the same thing when yours ends. Look for him to put some of the blame on himself for the most truthful answer.
7. How do you feel about our relationship when we’re not together?
This will tell you if he is secure with himself because if he says that he can’t stand to think about you being with another man when all you do is go have lunch with the girls you have a big time controller on your hands. Better to find out right now.
These questions may be best answered when you two are not together. Take the questions and work on them alone and separate then make time to get together to go over your answers.
Remember to keep in mind this short relationship quiz is only a start to get you two to communicate openly about things that you don’t talk about in your everyday conversations.
In Love? Show It Off…
March 31st, 2010 adminIf you are in love and you are afraid to reveal your feelings, there’s a big chance that you may be too aggressive with the person you love, exactly because you are too afraid to reveal your weakness.
As a result, you are too cold with them and you don’t help them in any way. Your behavior with them is not normal behavior. If they were any other person, you would not be so rude. As a matter of fact, you would not be rude at all, but kind and gentle.
However, because you are trying to hide your weakness in front of this special person, you are an iceberg with them, completely indifferent to their problems and pain. You never help them and never show any sympathy.
You are always afraid that they may interpret any kindness as a sign of weakness and conclude that you are dying of love. You are afraid that they will destroy you completely if they tell you that they don’t want you.
Because you are so afraid, you are never kind and helpful with them as you would be if they were not so special to you. Because of your fear, you hurt them. You are aggressive, insensitive, distant, and selfish—in other words, the perfect monster. Of course you cannot inspire love…
How romantic! Instead of smiling and being kind, you are rude, cruel, and absurd.
Perhaps you imagine that “when you’re finally together” you’ll be able to make him or her forget this image completely. You imagine that “they will understand your weakness” and forgive you for your cruelty.
You may even try to test their reactions and provoke them with a lot of painful experiences, in order to see if they are going to abandon you or if they are going to find another flirt. If and if and if, until you’re sure you can reveal to them the most secret feeling in the universe: the love you feel for them.
However, you are not considering a possibility that you should consider from the beginning: perhaps they won’t wait to see the other, nicer side of your personality after seeing how cold and immature you are.
Of course, you have to also realize that there are a few intelligent people in this world who can understand the meaning of human reactions and who will discover your secret, only because you are being aggressive instead of kind and gentle, as you would be if you were not trying to hide your feelings.
My advice is this: if you cannot be normal, pretend you are normal on purpose. Do many normal things in a very normal way, even though you may feel horrible because you believe that you should not be so kind with that special person, since it is obvious that they are going to understand that you desperately love them and that they can kill you with their rejection.
Pretend that they are not this special person, but somebody else not so important.
This is the only way to avoid the neurosis that will certainly dominate you if you insist on being cruel and distant, simply because you want to hide your feelings from the person you love.
Is It Love?
March 26th, 2010 admin
You probably haven’t thought about this possibility, but the truth is that you may be wanted by many men or women, without being loved by them.
If you are attractive, intelligent, you have a great personality, money, beauty, etc., you may be desired by many people that belong to the opposite sex, but this doesn’t mean that they love you. This means that they want to posses you, without caring about the way you feel, your plans, ideals or preferences.
You will be able to verify if they really love you or not by examining their actions and their behavior.
Be very careful if you are very attractive, for one reason or another…
How can you verify if they are playing with you and they only want to fulfill their selfish desires, using you like a trophy that they exhibit to their environment, or using your intelligence and good disposition in order to make you work for them without being paid?
How can you be sure that you are not being used?
Pay attention to the way they behave with you.
If they make you suffer, without caring about the way you feel, but only about their desires, their plans and their ambitions, you’ll be easily able to understand that they don’t love you.
They simply want you, for other reasons. Otherwise, they would never make you suffer in order to oblige you to follow their plans. They are already using you if they are making you suffer for any reason.
Be careful if you are too wanted by too many, and never be vain, because your position is very delicate. Vanity is pure stupidity, because if you are beautiful or very intelligent, this doesn’t mean that you are perfect as a human being or that your mental health is safe. On the contrary: you are the ideal victim for the wild anti-conscience, your primitive wild conscience that wants to destroy your human side through craziness and control your behavior, provoking schizophrenia, psychosis or neurosis.
Be very serious and carefully examine everyone that cares about you.
They only want your honey, like flies. They don’t care about your desires, your personality, your feelings, nothing…
They want to imprison you in a cage and be your owners, because you are very nice.
You have to learn many things about the human psyche and human behavior if you want to be safe.
The scientific method of dream interpretation will not only show you everything you must learn, but will also transform you into a wise and self-confident person.
The dynamic method you have the privilege to have access to today is the result of a very long research that took 19 years to be completed, so that you could learn everything immediately, without doubts or any other delay.
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All your dreams have a protective character, exactly because you inherited the absurd anti-conscience, your wild conscience, in the biggest part of your brain.
The person who will really love you will care first of all about making you happy!
Pay attention to all the details and examine everything very carefully before being a victim of your own vanity. Never believe that someone loves you, only because they felt attracted by your characteristics, your intelligence or your social position.
Love Vs. Lust
March 26th, 2010 admin
I was talking to someone the other day and we had conservation about lust and love. She told me that people don’t fall in love because it will never be that way. It’s all based on lust because couples will never hurt each other if it’s love. I kind of agree with this person at this point. It was hard enough to admit that because I’m a firm believer of love at first sight and finding a soul mate. When I realized what this she was trying to say, I questioned her past experience in relationships.
If you’re a psychologist (I’m not), you know the past experiences can mold a person’s persona or behavior. As I questioned her past relationships, I noticed that she had it very bad. She doesn’t believe in love anymore because her past boyfriends she treated her badly. She doesn’t want to get hurt again. I was trying to convince her that there are plenty of fishes in the sea and that she should take it as an experience so you won’t make the same mistake again.
However, it’s easier said than done, right? This happens to people who try to compromise what they have with their partners. They give everything they have just to see it crumpled to the ground.
Even though people like her had bad experiences in relationships, they should never give up on love. Do not let a “dark cloud” go over your heart. That dark cloud will just block every opportunity to be loved. If you feel this way, don’t be afraid of love.
What Is Love?
February 15th, 2010 admin
What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said Love all
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no one is perfect.
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
William Shakespeare.